The Humbler (Ben Fowler - June 12, 2020)

Observation, Perspiration or Inspiration: 

In his book, The Road to Character, David Brooks writes about two competing sets of virtues in the human heart; the Resume virtues and the Eulogy virtues.

Resume virtues are things we put on our resumes. The skills we bring to the marketplace. They are less about our character and more about our accomplishments. Eulogy virtues are the things said about you at your funeral. Things about your character; Were you bold, loving, dependable, consistent, kind, generous, and humble?

When I think about someone who exemplifies the Eulogy virtues, I am reminded of one of my favorite people, my landlord Cindy.

Cindy was born into war torn Laos in the 1940's, she has seen her share of struggle. She lived through two wars (Korea, Viet Nam). Cindy escaped Laos after the war and made it to Hawaii with 100.00 in her pocket. She worked her way up the ladder, raising 5 children on her own, and became a small business owner. She fed her children, bought her first home, and overcame all odds by the sweat of her brow, literally. She owned her own farm in Mililiani for over 30 years and worked the Farmers Markets before they were cool. She is my current hero. 

Because of her struggle, she knows the pain of others. She is full of empathy, built into her from years of hard work and responsibility. Now every time she sees someone in need, she wants to help. She has helped me many times. In fact, she has a super power, she humbles everyone around her. I call her The Humbler. 

People like her, those rich in the Eulogy virtues, hover around our world, bringing a quiet humility and a listening ear. They are not boastful. They don't say much but when you're around them, you are aware you have a problem. You realize you are transfixed on yourself, your ambitions, and your own little world. You are humbled in their presence.

The frantic pace of this internet induced world has rewarded the resume virtues but we are not fooled. We know that in the end all that matters is not what you did but how much you loved and were loved by others. In the end, the Humblers win out.

What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world but loses his soul? Mark 8:36

Prayer:

Lord, let us be more like you. As we care about the lasting things, the things that have eternal value, may we inspire those around us. Lord send Your Humblers to keep us honest. Amen. 

An Idea:

Let us encourage those that are rich in character, humility, and the eulogy virtues. Let's celebrate what God celebrates, not just the things that are fading away.